Many women are becoming older today without finding men that are willing to commit. In general view, finding a guy is one thing, but keeping him is another. Both are essential approach.
There are important tools that can help you get a man to marry you. However, it may be a start in helping you develop deeper relationships that leads to marriage.
1. Men are often slower to commit because they are very diligent about getting to know a woman well before they commit to her. Men date first before becoming a boyfriend, and they stay a boyfriend first before getting to engaged. However, this is always hard for women, but there is a lesson to understand from it. They make sure (as women should) that they feel suitable on all levels. This process must happen at its own pace. Pressuring a man to make a decision before he feels he knows you will inevitably lead him to be uncertainties. Don't talk about marriage until either he brings it up or it's been about a year or more.
2. If dating goes well and fun, and your interactions are positive, he'll want you to be his girlfriend. If he builds experience with you and sees you as a productive person he wants to be with forever, he will get more serious about his future and work, start considering more distant goals such as buying a home, and
begin to discuss the future more and more. Only once he has made a decision about you and feels prepared and mature enough to propose, he will do so.
3. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Be sure of yourself,
and ready to challenge whatever that is before you. Men are known for their instinct to love confident women. How can a man not feel privileged when he earns the esteem of a woman who values herself so highly?
4. Show affection with class. A special look, a scratch on the
back, or a soft kiss is pleasant, but nothing "clingy" or inappropriate should be done.
5. Appreciate a man's mental and physical capabilities. Also,
tell him so, even if he's already vauntful. Then, support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or chiding him when he is at his worst.
6. Be fun. This sounds simple, but it's a critical factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor. Don’t be overstrung or negative.
7. Always be happy. Women who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be uncontrollably attractive to men.
8. If the warmth of your heart is written all over your face, and your feelings for your guy show like a sparkle in your eyes, you will melt him. This is what removes all doubt.
9. Practice Loyalty. A humble person is not someone who
downplays herself; it is a person who controls her ego/self-importance and shows a genuine interest in others.
10. Date. The term "date" in modern culture is vague and
sometimes redefined as something more than it is. Simply converse with a man and get to know more about each others' lives.
11. Don't presume because some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to re-examine the direction of your relationship.
12. Romance involves both parties. If you want to be respected
and treated as an equal, do the same for him. Be romantic. Make him want to be in this relationship. Don't be a tightwad. Men often enjoy romance too; pretending otherwise will only drive him away. Remember that some men are perfectly willing to date women they really like but don't see as "marriage material. " If, after six months to a year, you still haven't heard him refer to his future plans for marriage or family (with or without you), you may need to ask, "What qualities do you look for in someone you
see yourself committing to?" If he mentions qualities he's complimented you on, take it as a good sign. If his compliments are largely related to sex, it probably is not.
13. If you feel the need to have a serious talk, reconsider the
approach. Instead of coming at him with a serious tone (which will bring up his innate fear of pressure for commitment), be
upbeat and positive. "I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and
see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?"
14. Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and
appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we
experience.
15. Love yourself. Think, would you marry you? If you're not happy with who you are then don't expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like. Positive self-esteem is key.
16. Communicate. From the start of the relationship and all through the marriage, the key to keeping the relationship together is communication. Tell him what you feel both positive and negative.
17. Be natural. For all the glamour advertisements out there, the fake boobs, hair dyes, and all the rest, a man really appreciates something that is bonafide. Be natural and don't look fake. You want him to get to know the real you because it is the real you he's going to have to live with when you're married.
18. Be sexy. While sexuality isn't the only thing in a relationship, it is important. Show that you're interested in him romantically and sexually. Try not to be too prudish and withdrawn. Allow that aspect of the relationship to be free, fun, and lively. Men who want to marry aren't looking for just a roommate.
19. Know your role. An important part of any relationship is making both partners aware that they have a crucial and indispensable role to play. Make sure that you and your partner have a similar view of the relationship. If you're looking for someone to have kids with and he's looking for a casual relationship, it's not going to work out.
20. Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like women who are stable and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a "drama queen" in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in
relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
Note: Some part of this article was culled from Wikihow
Edited By: Fidelis C. K.
